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Finishing Well: Returning TO Joy:: About Marriage

In one of his podcasts Dr. Jim Wilder, a neurotheologian said the following related to family:

“The smallest group identity is two. And so, marriage is the ultimate expression of the most difficult group identity to form. Because is a mutual shared identity by two people who are about as different as they come, which is made to function in all conditions, 24 hours a day for the rest of your life span. And in it, people are mutually cared for and both people are satisfied. And they are able to take care of a wide variety of problems and all (both) will be glad to return to joy. That is the ultimate test of the hardest identity group to form.”

Group Identity

A group identity: “is something bigger than us, that is worth of dying and living for.” In this group each of the group member gains his identity by the perceptions of the others about him. And that is so because God has created us to be wholly relational.

Marriage

So, marriage is the most difficult group identity to form. In order to come to a more stable group identity consisting of three persons, the wife and the husband should bind together and individual to the THIRD PERSON in the bound, the TRIUNE GOD. This is the only alternative to make a marriage life giving, viable, reliable and resilient.
Returning to joy can be accomplished by nurturing yourself through joy by having an intimate, intense and permanent relationship with the TRIUNE GOD, the source of all joy.
If wife and husband set first their hearts to GOD to be filled with love and joy, then they can share love and joy to each other. So, it takes first the way up, the vertical path to GOD in order to “walk” in joy and love on the “horizontal” path of the relationship among people.

The Triune GOD

The TRIUNE GOD is in a perfect harmonic three-parts bound consisting of GOD THE FATHER, GOD THE SON (Jesus Christ, Jeshua HaMashiah (in Hebrew)) and the HOLY SPIRIT (Ruach Kodesch in Hebrew). This is our model of gardening relationships among us and among us and GOD.

Biblical References

‘I and the Father are one’ (in John 10:30).
The Father is in the Son, and the Son is in the Father (John 10:38)
“We can’t say, ‘The Son is the Father’, but we can say ‘the Son and the Father are One’. They are not one Son, or one Father, but One God. They relate to each other by the Holy Spirit.” Christianity.net.au



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